Five Tips For A Good Divorce
It is somewhat bizarre to think that a divorce, one of the most difficult occurrences in one’s life, could be considered ‘good’ or positive in any way. I think most Family lawyers would acknowledge that no divorce is pleasant; the breakdown of a marriage, the changing dynamics of a family, and all the uncertainty that comes with it is never easy.
However, a divorce does not need to be as challenging as one might anticipate, and there are methods of achieving a better process and outcome for all parties.
Resolution, an organisation which I am proud to be a member of, and which is dedicated to the constructive and non-confrontational resolution of family matters, celebrates Good Divorce Week, this year running from 10th-14th November.
It is a week dedicated to reminding Family practitioners of our Code of Practice when it comes to dealing with Family matters; reducing conflict and confrontation, putting the needs of the children first, and taking a solutions-focussed approach. It is also a week of promoting a better way of handling divorce matters, and that includes the steps that you can take, if your marriage has broken down.
If you are contemplating divorce, or going through the process, these are 5 steps which you can take to improve your overall experience and, hopefully, the outcome:
- Take legal advice at the earliest opportunity:
Obtaining advice from the outset can minimise unnecessary arguments, often based on misguided information. Google and AI are great tools, but they do not always get it right!
- Consider instructing a Resolution-trained family lawyer:
The entire focus of our practice is to resolve your matter, with as little acrimony as possible- which is what everyone should be seeking to achieve.
- Do not rush to issue court proceedings:
When dealing with the associated financial and children issues arising on a divorce, there are a number of out-of-court options, which a lawyer can advise you on. Going to court is not the only solution.
- Think long-term:
Any actions you take or decisions you reach now, will have implications on your future. Do not rush into an agreement, which may not serve you in future.
- Do not DIY if you are unsure:
Whilst no one wishes to spend money unnecessarily, especially when there are other competing needs, handling legal matters yourself with the aim of saving money, can end up costing you more in the long run. Some solicitors, such as myself, offer divorce services on a fixed fee basis – get in touch for a quote.